These days every other book on the shelves is about how to be a success. And these books equate success with certain factors:  How to get rich, lose weight, make friends, be efficient and organized, and even how to be successful at developing habits that lead to success. Here is a list of the top 25 books according to SUCCESS magazine (yes there is even a dedicated magazine all about success)!  It is a global obsession. It used to be people just wanted to be able to get food on the table and put a roof over their heads. Boom, done and dusted and then fall asleep feeling pretty successful.  Now they need to do that, and have numerous higher education degrees, multiple homes, not to mention umpteen friends or likes on social media. Oh I forgot,they also need to have the latest cool car, wear a size 2 and not have any forehead wrinkles!

Now I am not a self help motivational guru. I am just little old me, a yankee doodle paddy here. But I have my own definition of success that I want to share with you today.  But before I get to that here is the definition of success according to the oracle of word analysis, the famous dictionary dot com!

Success: pronounced [suh k-ses]

noun
1. the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one’s goals.
2. the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.
3. a performance or achievement that is marked by success, as by the attainment of honors:
4.a person or thing that has had success, as measured by attainment of goals, wealth, etc.:

The listed synonyms are achievement, fame, triumph. Hmmm, in other words, materialism, idolatry and power?

No offense whatsoever, but I just want to take issue with a couple of points. First off it would appear that most of these deal with the end or the final goal achieved. I think life is a journey and with its constantly evolving nature, one could achieve “success” while still attaining goals.

Secondly, I think there is one major factor here and that is the omission of any reference to happiness. You see in my book anyway, when I see the typical notion of success like a wealthy businessman or a famous supermodel, they don’t actually look very happy. That is not something I would aspire to, yet many people are on a quest clutching at that kind of elusive “success”.

So for what it is worth, here is my definition of success: HAPPY!  When I see a happy person that is what draws me, what inspires me, and consequently what I aspire to everyday. While happiness by nature is also elusive because life does throw curve balls.  In fact I have shared openly on here about a time I wasn’t very happy.  But I feel that I do have success because I am HAPPY, even though I am not a size 2, have the latest cool car or bucket loads of money in the bank.  Thanks be to God I have food on the table and a roof over my head. Sure I don’t have umpteen likes on my Facebook page, but that is because as I have told you before I don’t have a Facebook account. (*** see bottom of page)

But I am blessed to have many people that engage with me daily on snapchat (my username is blissbakery).  And frequently they comment on my happiness. They tell me that watching my stories makes them happy and ask how and why I am so happy. Of course I am open about my faith and it is the core reason why I have always been a happy persons in spite of the many traumas I have endured in my lifetime. But I have been wanting to share this acronym (I love them) about success and so today, for a little Monday Motivation shall we say, I am laying it out for you!

If you take each letter of the word HAPPY and create an acronym, these core traits might help you as they have me achieve success.  Well, my definition of success, which is being happy!

H for Helpful: When we are helpful, doing for others, we take the focus off ourselves. We tend to think less about our problems and issues.  By bringing someone else joy, it ends up rubbing off on us too.  I’ve shared a couple of stories here and here before about giving to others and a time I was helpful and how it turned out to be “successful”. They might give you examples of my experiences with being helpful.

A for Appreciative:  One of my all time fav things in life is to write thank you notes. I practically write thank you notes for getting a thank you note (which I adore receiving).  I have told the story on here about why I am so grateful for having food to eat.  It must be hard sometimes for people that have never been wanton for anything to know how to appreciate things.  But common courtesy and saying thanks is always a good habit to form. And focusing on what we have, rather than what we don’t, helps keep us happy!

P for Persistent:  While I haven’t written a story about this particular topic, interestingly enough, if you know me you know that I am a super persistent person.  My hubby calls it stubbornness!  Haha!  However,  take this blog and what little social media I do for instance. It is so incredibly hard for me to do these things because I am so tech challenged.  But I am determined to get this message to you so I keep at it!  And I shout my little disclaimer on the ABC of YDP so you all cut me some slack for typos etc!  One of the best quotes on this topic is: “A river cuts through a rock not because of its power but its persistence”  I’ll keep slowly flowing over this tech rock, aiming to cut through, but until then thanks for being patient with my persistence!

P for Positive:  It goes without saying that if you see a happy person they are going to be positive. And if you are positive, you want to stick with those that bring positivity to the table as well, lest the negative energy vampires try to suck the life force out of you!  One of my fav stories of  positivity vs negativity is when two kids were put in separate rooms that had been filled to the brim with horse manure. P.S. I am not condoning this by the way.  But the negative child was obviously not amused and was in fact moaning and crying saying, “This is disgusting, whaaa, whaaa get me out of here it stinks!”. The positive child was laughing and giggling saying, “Weeee this is fun, where are you pony, where are you,  hahahahaha!  I know with all this horse poop there must be a pony in here somewhere, come out, come out where ever you are!” Okay, pretty graphic, but you get the point, right? So when you think of positive, think of pony!

Y is Youthful:  You don’t have to be young to be youthful. I am 51 years young and people seem to be shocked when I tell them this.  Not that I don’t have my fair share of wrinkles or grey hair. But I am playful, curious, willing to try new things and youthful in my view of the world.  I have hope and wonder which are so important to maintain some innocence.  Some people might think it is naiveté or trying to live in a bubble. But spend any amount of time around children and you see that they live in the moment and are indeed happy!  Sure they bonk their heads and have the wee cry, but then carry on being creative and imaginative!

So being Helpful, Appreciative, Persistent, Positive and Youthful are all traits that make me a HAPPY person. These may or may not work for you. Maybe you have your own traits that help you be happy and a success.  I would love you to share them with me.  And while I am waiting to hear from you, here is something else I will share with you that will make your tummy happy.  My Yankee Doodle Paddy Cookies.  Why are they called that?  Cuz they have American and Irish ingredients!  They are delicious Chocolate Chip Oatmeal Cookies and they will rock your world.  Trust me one bite and you will be in a state of bliss. You won’t be worrying about reading one more book to help you be a success. You will just be wanting to eat more than one of these cookies!

Ingredients:

1 3/4 cups all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon salt (optional)
1 1/4 cups packed brown sugar
1 cup (2 sticks) butter or margarine, softened
1/2 cup granulated sugar
2 large eggs
2 tablespoons milk
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
2 1/2 cups quick or old-fashioned oats
2 cups (12-oz. pkg.) NESTLÉ® TOLL HOUSE® Semi-Sweet Chocolate Morsels
1 cup coarsely chopped nuts (optional)

Instructions:

PREHEAT oven to 375° F.

COMBINE flour, baking soda and salt in small bowl. Beat brown sugar, butter and granulated sugar in large mixer bowl until creamy. Beat in eggs, milk and vanilla extract. Gradually beat in flour mixture. Stir in oats, chocolate morsels and nuts; mix well. Drop by rounded tablespoon onto ungreased baking sheets.

BAKE for 9 to 10 minutes for chewy cookies or 12 to 13 minutes for crispy cookies. Cool on baking sheets for 1 minute; remove to wire racks to cool completely.

Depending where you are you might not be able to get the famous American chocolate chips from Nestle Toll House (from whom this recipe comes). Or for that matter the gorgeous Irish oats from Flahavan’s or the Kerrygold Butter (which you can’t see the packaging but click here to see my love affair with the best butter in the world ). However you can still make these delicious cookies with you own ingredients! You’ll be happy you did!

HAPPY baking,

YDP

** Since this post was published I have now joined Facebook!

I’m a bit under the weather today. A tummy bug.  I spent all of yesterday in bed apart from having a shower and going to mass.  And I mustered up the energy to do my Sunday Spotlight Snap Sista series on Snapchat (username: blissbakery).  I’m craving to get back in the kitchen but don’t think I can stomach it, literally. But sometimes in life, these pauses in our patterns are actually good. Helpful moments for some quiet reflection. So here is a bit of thoughtfulness for you, for what it is worth.

Today is my father’s birthday.  I won’t say “would have been” his birthday, because no matter what, this is and always will be the day he came into the world.  Though sadly he only lived four days past his 46th birthday.  I had 5 years of my childhood with him before my parents’ divorce and three years of my adult life with him, but I treasure those 8 years together.  I try to remember each and every interaction, what was said, what we did, what we wore.  But the Maya Angelou quote, “people will forget what you said and what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel” is so true in this instance.  My dad made me feel loved.  As I have mentioned before, that wasn’t the case with my mom. But with my dad I always knew.

As I have shared on here before, my father was a fireman for the city of Chicago. He was the youngest of seven kids of Irish immigrants and tragically he was the first to pass away due to the results of a chemical fire.  He was a hard working man.  I think I get my work ethic from him. My hubby told me once I was a workaholic.  I prefer to think of myself as a Productiveholic. And my dad was one of those.  Because firemen work 24 hour shifts, they are then off for 48 hours.  So during those “off times” he wasn’t off but worked as a carpenter.  He was genius with his hands and could literally build anything.  Half of Chicago has bits of his cabinetry in their kitchens or totally fitted out basements.  All of his brothers and indeed his father were quite the tradesmen.  It was part of their Irish culture. As was being a firefighter too I suppose.

I think about how much I miss my dad, though I feel he is with me everyday. There’s a “Love Is” cartoon that says, “We don’t lose a loved one, but gain an angel” which I speak of often, and so I’d like to think he does watch over me.  But I can’t hug him.  I miss his “meat suit” as I like to call our human body.  I also think about the fact that I have outlived him by 5 years already.  And indeed my mom, if she has passed, which as I have shared the story before, I don’t know for sure.  But she was 51 when she disappeared, my age now. So it is strange to think you have actually outlived your parents.

So it makes me more appreciative of life.  Knowing that we don’t know when our time might be over. But rather than dwell on that, I focus on how each day is a gift.  We can’t avoid dying because eventually it’s gonna happen, but I like to think how can I live, right now, in this moment, on this day.  Even being sick, I still feel that it is a gift.  It is a moment to ponder, reflect and appreciate.  It is a time to let my Hubby look after me, which it is is hard for me to let others take care of me since I am such a giver.

There is a lovely poem called The Dash. I’ve put the full text at the bottom of the post.  It is a sobering reminder that the little punctuation mark that separates the dates of our birth from our death doesn’t really give an indication of what we have accomplished or achieved.  But since I have “outlived” my own parents, no matter how much longer the date on the other side of the dash is for me, I hope it is well spent, always and everywhere sharing LOVE!

Thoughtful love,

YDP

P.S. May you do me a little favor if you can today. Since I can’t hug my dad in his “meat suit” on this special day of his, if your dad is still with you will you please give him a hug? It would mean the world to me! Thank you!

​The Dash
by Linda Ellis copyright 1996

​I read of a man who stood to speak
at the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on the tombstone
from the beginning…to the end.

He noted that first came the date of birth
and spoke the following date with tears,
but he said what mattered most of all
was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time
that they spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved them
know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not, how much we own,
the cars…the house…the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
and how we spend our dash.

So, think about this long and hard.
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
that can still be rearranged.

If we could just slow down enough
to consider what’s true and real
and always try to understand
​the way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger
and show appreciation more
and love the people in our lives
like we’ve never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect
and more often wear a smile,
remembering that this special dash
might only last a little while.

​So, when your eulogy is being read,
with your life’s actions to rehash…
would you be proud of the things they say
about how you spent YOUR dash?

Dr. Carrot Cake indeed, did you know I have a PhD in Carrot Cake? Yes I believe there is such a degree. My thesis/dissertation was all about the best tasting carrot cake in the world.  And while I don’t have a paper certificate in a frame on my wall, I have years and years of training, testing, analyzing and perfecting the perfect carrot cake recipe. My daughter would even attest to that. In fact one quick read of a blog post of hers (click here) and you will see her sentiments exactly!  However, the silver (or maybe we shall call it orange) lining is that this recipe has been enjoyed by numerous and indeed high profile people. I made this cake for my son and daughter in law’s wedding cake. And have made it for birthday cakes umpteen times. I even made it for this blog before (click here). But today, I finally made it for Snapchat (my username is blissbakery).  However rather than a layered cake, I made the same batter just baked them into cupcakes.

Ingredients:

2 cups plain flour sifted (305 g)

2 tsp. baking soda

1 tsp. salt

2 tsp. ground cinnamon

½ tsp ground nutmeg

1 tsp. ground ginger

2 cups sugar (420 g)

1 ¼ cups vegetable oil (300 ml or ½ pint)

4 large eggs

3 cups grated, peeled carrots (275 g)

1 cup coarsely chopped pecans (optional) (100g)

½ cup raisins (optional) (85 g)

Preparation:

1. Preheat oven to 350 F/180 C degrees. Whisk flour, baking soda, salt, cinnamon, nutmeg, and ginger in a medium bowl. Once blended set aside.
2. In a large bowl whisk sugar and oil until well blended. Add eggs one at a time and mix. Add flour mixture and stir until well blended. Stir in carrots (and pecans and raisins if using).
3. Divide batter among cupcake pans (tins) that have been lined with paper liners. Using an ice-cream scoop, fill the cupcake pans about ¾ full.
4. Bake about 14-18 minutes or until toothpick inserted in center of cupcake comes out clean. Let cool in pans about 5 minutes then transfer to a cooling rack. Cool completely before icing them. You can use a piping bag or an offset palette knife to spread the frosting on top.

For the Cream Cheese Frosting

600 g (1 lb 5 oz) Icing Sugar (called confectioners sugar in the U. S) sifted

100 g Butter (3.5 oz)

250 g (8.8 oz) Cream Cheese

Drop of vanilla extract

Pinch of salt

To make the cream cheese frosting, combine the butter and sugar in a mixer. Add the cream cheese all in one go. Beat on low until incorporated. Add the vanilla  and salt. Then increase speed of the mixer and beat several minutes until fluffy.

While I have traditionally made these at Easter time (as well as every other month of the year) I wasn’t able to make them for the tutorial until today. Hubby and I took a quick weekend trip to Ireland and it was a bit hectic before we left. However, since the 1916 Centenary Celebrations were in full force while on the Emerald Isle, I was inspired to make a cupcake in honor of the angels that gave their life for their country. I even used angel cupcake paper liners/cases.  So while a few of the cupcakes will be adorned with my edible carrot decor (made from fondant icing) there are also some of the tricolor persuasion.

My favorite moment from what we watched on television while on the family farm in Galway, was Paul Muldoon’s line ” Let passion and compassion be the height of fashion”. I love it because I do feel Ireland is so generous as a nation and as individual people. So I am going to tap into my Irishness and give away these cupcakes tomorrow for Random Act of Kindness Wednesday. A fellow snapper and Irish woman Miriam of www.bakemystyle.com has a weekly challenge to share some kindness on the day. I’ve participated before and love it! And I love these cupcakes. Hope they bring joy to some folks out there too!

Love from Yankee Doodle Paddy, PhD